{"id":2262,"date":"2017-06-03T10:21:49","date_gmt":"2017-06-03T18:21:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.workparentsleep.com\/?p=2262"},"modified":"2021-04-27T08:59:30","modified_gmt":"2021-04-27T16:59:30","slug":"silent-miscarriage-story","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/workparentsleep.com\/silent-miscarriage-story\/","title":{"rendered":"Silent Miscarriage: Our Story"},"content":{"rendered":"
We\u00a0were over the moon to find out we were pregnant 2 months ago. \u00a0I’m over the age of 35 (“advanced maternal age” in the medical community), so I was a bit more cautious this time around. \u00a0When over 35, your pregnancy is immediately classified as high-risk. \u00a0It’s been 11 years since my last pregnancy so it was time to read up on pregnancy for the over 35 crowd. \u00a0I reached out to friends for medical referrals and started making appointments. \u00a0I also learned about new screening tests available and planned to schedule any recommended ones.<\/p>\n
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We had our first doctor’s appointment about a week after our positive pregnancy test. \u00a0At the office, we had a brief conversation with the doctor, started prenatal bloodwork tests, and scheduled an ultrasound. \u00a0The next week we were able to see our little one via ultrasound and hear its little heartbeat. \u00a0We were about 7 weeks along and relieved to hear that things looked good–a little of my worry faded that day.<\/p>\n
Fast-forward another week, and, for reasons both logistical and personal, we decided to try a new medical practice to continue prenatal care. \u00a0Our new doctor requested an additional ultrasound to\u00a0confirm our pregnancy and due date (they hadn’t received the paperwork from the other doctor’s office). \u00a0We again got to see who we now lovingly referred to as our lentil (we’d started tracking our pregnancy progress on the Baby Center app<\/a> and found that our baby was the size of a lentil during week 6–the name stuck and bags of lentils magically appeared in the house as loving reminders of our future). \u00a0Lentil looked happy and healthy with a strong heartbeat and we even saw a few kicks of a leg.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Again, being over 35, I was still cautious, but turning the corner to optimism, as I was getting further along and got to see lentil not once, but twice. \u00a0I still read up on statistics, trying to keep myself grounded and realistic. \u00a0A few things I found online:<\/p>\n References here<\/a>, here<\/a>,\u00a0and here<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n With everything looking good, our next step was to schedule a Nuchal Translucency Screening or NT Ultrasound (you can learn more here<\/a>). \u00a0This particular screening is a specialized ultrasound given between weeks 11 and 13 in pregnancy. \u00a0It measures the fluid at the base of the neck to determine whether there’s an increased likelihood the baby has a chromosomal problem. \u00a0We were referred to and scheduled our NT ultrasound with a high-risk pregnancy center in town.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n We arrived at the appointment and met with a genetic counselor to discuss office policies and procedures. \u00a0We also discussed\u00a0other available screenings, including non-invasive blood tests that provide odds for genetic disorders and can determine baby gender. \u00a0After our meeting, we went to the ultrasound room and waited for the sonographer.<\/p>\n Excited for our third chance to see lentil, we waited for the sonographer to pop the picture on the screen. \u00a0Her first question was how far along I was, to which I replied: “A little over 12 weeks.” \u00a0Her response back was, “Hmm, I’m measuring a little over 10 weeks.” \u00a0I thought to myself, did we get our due date wrong? \u00a0Then the slow realization that something was wrong started to sink in. \u00a0She asked, “Have you seen the heartbeat before? \u00a0I can’t find one.” \u00a0Our world turned upside down. \u00a0Our lentil hadn’t made it; lentil had passed away 2 weeks ago and we hadn’t a clue. \u00a0 The doctor came in after the sonographer and confirmed the bad news, went over some paperwork, and recommended next steps. \u00a0We left the appointment devastated.<\/p>\n A silent or missed miscarriage is defined as a miscarriage in which there aren’t any typical symptoms like cramping or bleeding. \u00a0I thought back but hadn’t noticed anything out of the ordinary and still felt pregnant. \u00a0It was hard to imagine I’d silently miscarried. \u00a0Nothing felt different, but everything had changed.<\/p>\n Later in the day, I was contacted by my doctor’s office to pursue follow-up treatment. \u00a0I was given three options:<\/p>\n I let the office know I wanted to have a D&C and scheduled a pre-op appointment the next morning. \u00a0During the pre-op appointment, we met with the doctor performing the surgery and were given information on the procedure. \u00a0 We were also handed paperwork and directed to go to the hospital admittance department\u00a0to prep for surgery the following day. \u00a0I also received a prescription for ibuprofen and a mild narcotic to assist with any discomfort after surgery.<\/p>\n A D&C is a surgical procedure where the cervix is dilated and the contents of the uterus are removed (either by scraping the uterine wall or by suction). \u00a0The procedure typically lasts about 15-20 minutes and is done under some type of sedative.<\/p>\nStats on Miscarriage<\/h1>\n
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The NT Ultrasound<\/h1>\n
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No Heartbeat<\/h1>\n
Silent Miscarriage<\/h1>\n
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Undergoing a D&C<\/h1>\n